Yom Kippur Resolutions 5786/2025

Each year on Yom Kippur, I take time to reflect on the lessons I’ve learned and the intentions I want to carry forward. It is a day of atonement, but also a day of clarity, an opportunity to reset, release what no longer serves me, and step into a new chapter. Writing these reflections has become a tradition for me, one that reminds me growth is ongoing and that each year offers a chance to begin again.

These are some of the life lessons I have learned in the past year.

Lesson 1: Self-Awareness

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.” – Viktor Frankl

Self-awareness has always felt like a part of me, something I recognized early in life. At the same time, it’s something that has to be continuously cultivated. This past year brought circumstances that made me question whether I still had access to that part of myself. What I’ve come to realize is that awareness never leaves; it only asks to be remembered.

It is about being conscious, about remembering that in every moment, I have the freedom to choose a new response.

Self-awareness is what helps me notice when I’ve been caught in old patterns, and what reminds me that conditioning can also be unconditioned. I don’t have to keep repeating what no longer serves me. I can pause, notice, and choose differently.

There is comfort in knowing that the awareness I need is never gone.

Lesson 2: Safety

“True safety is not found in walls or distance, but in connection.”

For much of my life, I’ve carried an invisible rule: that safety had to be earned. If I worked hard enough, stayed vigilant enough, or proved myself enough, then maybe I could feel secure. At the same time, I’ve also been quick to trust, because my instinct is to see the best in people.

Both ways were rooted in searching for safety in the wrong places; either by guarding myself too tightly or by giving my trust away too quickly. What I’ve come to understand is that safety is not a prize at the end of effort. It’s something I’m allowed to claim simply because I am here.

It lives in steady presence, in trust, and in the kind of connection that allows me to breathe easily. 

Lesson 3: Worth & Love

“Love is not found in intensity, it’s found in the steady, ordinary moments.”

Worth is not something I have to prove, and love is not something I have to chase. For so long, I equated love with intensity: the highs, the lows, the extremes. But I’ve learned that real love is gentler than I once imagined. It is steady. It is safe. It meets me in closeness and in joy.

Love is not about doing or earning. It is about being. And my worth, just like love, exists simply because I do.

Love reveals itself in the ordinary. It lives in the small gestures, the daily rhythms, the laughter that lingers after a conversation. It doesn’t need extremes to be real; it is proven in presence. And the more I rest in that truth, the more I see that my worth is constant, steady, and already enough.

Lesson 4: Fear

“Understanding fear is crucial to prevent it from controlling you.” 

This year, I’ve been paying more attention to fear. Not the kind that comes in obvious ways, but the quiet patterns, the hesitation, the silence, the holding back when I want to speak up about what I need.

Fear shifts when I bring it into the light. When I name it, I create space to choose differently. I don’t have to let it decide for me. My voice matters, and my needs matter, even in the moments when fear would have me believe otherwise.

I’ve discovered that when I listen closely, fear points me toward growth. It shows me the places where I feel most vulnerable, but also where I long to expand. By noticing it without judgment, I can choose to move through it instead of letting it keep me small. Each time I do, I reclaim a little more freedom to live with intention and to honor what matters most.

Resolutions for the year 5786

Continue learning and growing in my faith

Judaism has always been a part of me, but in the last year I’ve found myself craving more connection. Whether through temple services, prayer, or personal study, I want to stay open and curious about my faith. Learning isn’t just about knowledge, it’s about feeling closer to G-d and grounded in who I am. This year, I want to keep leaning into that connection and letting it bring me strength and clarity.

Read more

Reading has always been a source of learning and joy for me. It’s not about the quantity or how many books I finish. I want to bring back the feeling of learning and inspiration that reading gives me. This year, I will create intentional time for it.

Relaunch my interview series

Last year, I wrote about wanting to start an interview series on my blog. I was focused on other things, and it didn’t come together then, but the idea stayed with me. Now I’m in a place where I can give it the attention it deserves. I’ve completed a new interview that I plan to share during the holiday season, and I want this to mark the true beginning of the series. My hope is for it to become a steady part of my blog; a space to share meaningful conversations that inspire and connect.

Prioritize movement

Movement has become an important part of how I care for myself. I feel the difference when I’m consistent, and I want to hold onto that. This year, it’s not only about tracking progress, but about building steady habits that help me feel strong, grounded, and energized. I want movement to remain a natural and supportive part of my routine.

Allow rest without guilt

I have a tendency to feel like I always need to be doing something, as if my worth is tied to my productivity. This year, I want to allow myself to rest without guilt and to trust that rest is not the absence of growth, but a vital part of it. By giving myself permission to slow down and recharge, I can remember that I am enough even when I’m not in motion.

As I step into this new year, I want to hold on to these lessons and resolutions as gentle reminders. Growth isn’t about perfection, but about staying present, choosing with intention, and continuing to show up; for myself, for the people I love, and for what I believe in. My hope for 5786 is to move forward with openness, with faith, and with a heart that keeps learning.

And my hope for you is the same: that you find safety where you need it, remember your worth when it feels uncertain, and give yourself permission to rest in love and faith. 

Wishing you a meaningful, healthy, and sweet year ahead. May this be a year of clarity, courage, connection, and gentleness with ourselves and each other.

G’mar Chatimah Tovah!

May you be inscribed in the book of life!

Until next time,

Xoxo TheZenFashionista